Monday, November 12, 2007
My review of Avoiding the Greener Grass Syndrome: How to Grow Affair-proof Hedges Around Your Marriage.
About the book:
Aided by the secrecy of the Internet and cellphones, extra-marital affairs are on the rise-and Christian couples aren't exempt. While cheating on one's spouse may still be socially unacceptable, it is more prevalent now than ever before. From a woman who strayed to the other side of the marital fence, and returned to find forgiveness and restoration-comes this book about predicting and preventing an extra-marital affair. Based on the principle that the grass is always greener where it's watered, this book focuses on how to grow a beautiful marriage in your own backyard by establishing six protective "hedges" around it.
Here is what the acronym HEDGES stands for...
The author uses these topics as an outline for her tips on how to keep your marriage healthy so your spouse doesn't stray. Even for couples who are doing well, there are invaluable tips in this book. Some of them may seem obvious, but at the same time it's amazing how the absence of those things in marriage make Christian couples vulnerable to straying. I've known many people in this situation over the years and the practical advice the author gives would do wonders for most relationships if applied.
The vignettes the author uses are illustrations from her own life experience. She uses them to bring the point she is trying to make to the forefront. Each section ends with highlights from the chapter and practical things to apply, plus some questions to consider about your marital relationship. This book would make a great tool for a couples Bible study or self-help support group. I highly recommend this resource to every married couple. I found it incredibly interesting, well-written, and not complex or overly-wordy. In fact, I read it in just a few hours.
Avoiding the Greener Grass Syndrome was published by Kregel and released in 2004.